So, you'd like to stop feeling guilty. If you're like me you are not short of examples where motherhood guilt popped up its head. As recently as last week I was at an all day event and about 11.30 I received a text from my youngest. It read 'Mum, where are you?' 😳😳 So, yes. I put my hand up for another vote towards the Worst Mother of the Year Award. Well, first the bad news about feeling guilty... You cant really stop it.... But.... You don't really want to. Guilt is an emotion, and like all emotions it has a purpose - it is giving you feedback and guidance on your life. It is important that you feel guilt. There are two question to ask yourself:
Have a look at these two examples.
Guilt is an emotion, and like all emotions it has a purpose - it is giving you feedback and guidance on your life. What is the feeling of guilt telling you in these two situations, what might be some underlying thinking, and is it helpful?
But maybe you’re just tired, need a break and this time out for self-care is something important. If you were to give in to this guilt and not go out at all – what happens to your self care? Where is your chance to reset, regroup, recharge? Self-care is looking after your mental and physical health. It is crucial for you and your family. So, acknowledge your guilt, scan your guilt for information but don’t get stuck in it. Reaffirm what is important and why and then do what you can to live YOUR best life. In my latest podcast I talk more about the process of getting unstuck. You can catch it here https://anchor.fm/kim-dunn/episodes/How-to-say-NO-to-guilt-and-YES-to-self-care-eb4fge. If you have any topic you would like me to talk about, simply send me an email using the contact form below. Until next time, take care of yourself. Kim xx Comments are closed.
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AuthorKim Dunn is a Child Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds. |