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Psychologists and psychology clinics with immediate availability for Telehealth consultations.

17/9/2021

 
Accessing mental health support in Australia can be complex. However, it is not true that all psychologists have big waiting lists and you can’t see anyone for six months.  Additionally, I acknowledge that accessing private psychologists is only one part of the mental health industry, albeit an important one, and there are many other professionals providing counselling in the mental health industry. Mental health support can also be provided by counsellors, accredited mental health nurses and social workers. a range of mental health professionals.  
 
Although the following list includes mainly psychologists, you will find some contact details for other mental health professionals, e.g. counsellors, accredited mental health nurses and social workers will be included in the below listings.
 
It can be difficult working out your needs and finding support that is a good fit and you may need to try more than one professional.  You may also need to be flexible to access private mental health care particularly in terms of times of appointments, but I encourage you not to give up before you begin your search for support.  
 
The opening up of telehealth as a mode of delivering therapy means you are able to access any therapist in Australia. 
 
Why do some psychologists have vacancies?
Many psychologists choose not to keep waiting lists and therefore vacancies occur with regularity as clients finish treatment. Vacancies occur due to a wide variety of reasons including clinics expanding their personnel or hours, a change in treatment modality e.g. a focus on brief therapy, and new psychologists entering the system. There also tend to be more vacancies available in the middle of the day. 
 
The availability of vacancies is a fluid situation, however, it can be difficult for potential clients, for other psychologists, and for referring bodies, to know where they can find psychologists who have vacancies. The following is a list of clinics and clinicians who have immediate availability (within the next four weeks).  These clinicians will not place you on a waiting list. If you contact any of the clinics listed below and there are no vacancies, please let me know as soon as possible
 
How much does it cost to see a therapist
The cost of appointments will vary.  Clinicians on this list are able to set their fees at a price they choose. You do not need a referral to see any of the below clinicians.  However, if you have a valid medicare referral, you are able to claim the appropriate medicare rebate.  This does not mean you will receive a free service.  Please note, there are no medicare rebates to help with the cost of seeing a Counsellor.
 
The information listed has been provided by the psychologist or clinic owner. Where available, information on the age of clients seen, and areas of major interest by the Psychologist/mental health professional, have been noted. The author of this article takes no responsibility as to the information provided.  All responsibility is on you as the reader to explore the information and make your decision as to whether you wish to make a booking or referral. 
 
Clinics and clinicians with availability for telehealth appointments for clients. 
​**Updated 12th May 2022 

Positive Young Minds 
www.positiveyoungminds.com.au.
Phone: 0408533515
Kim Ross (Psychologist)
Ages: children under 12. 
Presentation: Anxiety, sleep difficulties and school refusal. Parenting and emotion coaching.Focus on prevention and positive psychology strategies. NDIS welcome.

Srolic Barber (Psychologist)
SB Psychology
www.srolicbarber.com
0405714262
Ages: 18+
Presentations: ADHD, Anxiety, OCD, Self-Esteem, Relationship Issues.
 
Zoe Markopoulous, (Psychologist)
Catalyst Psychology
www.catalystpsychology.com.au
0468637413
Clients 8-25 years
Presentation: anxiety, depression, parenting, developmental & learning disorders, social issues
 
Sheida Badiee, (Psychologist)
Catalyst Psychology
www.catalystpsychology.com.au
0468637413
Clients 16 years +
Presentation: sees a broad range of presentations
 
Rushi Witharange, (Psychologist)
Catalyst Psychology
www.catalystpsychology.com.au
0468637413
Clients 8 years +
Presentation: anxiety, depression, parenting, developmental & learning disorders, social issues
 
Alycia Papantoniou (Psychologist)
Awake Psychology
www.awakepsychology.com.au/
02 6188 7388
Ages: Children (6+), adolescents, and adults
A broad range of presentations including anxiety, depression, ADHD, grief, and issues pertaining to health psychology
 
Fiona Stevens (Mental Health Social Worker)
Awake Psychology
www.awakepsychology.com.au/
02 6188 7388
Ages: Adolescents (14+) and adults.
A broad range of presentations including anxiety, depression, trauma, stress, and substance dependence

Georgina Mavor (Psychologist)
Fresh Perspective Psychology
www.georginamavor.com
0417949179
Older Adults
Anxiety, Depression and Grief in older adults experiencing issues associated with the questions about one’s life; difficult relationships and/or unresolved issues with children, siblings, and parents; loss of independence due to increasing physical disability and relocation; grief; isolation and loneliness. 
Family members may be needed to help set up and complete online client intake. Bulk billed consultations available for clients living at home and in retirement villages. Private consultations available to people in residential aged care facilities.
 
The TARA Clinic
​www.thetaraclinic.com.
0432700784
Marnta Sidhu (Psychologist)
Maya Rutman (Counsellor)
Ages: Adults
Presentation: Supporting Alcohol and Other Drug Issues

Inner Spark
innersparkpsychology.com
(03) 7003248
Broad range of presentations including interpersonal challenges, anxiety, depression, grief and loss, life transitions and existential concerns.
Ages; Adolescents and adults
 
Lara Patterson (Psychologist)
http://www.larapatterson.com/.
Ages: Adults
Presentations: Perinatal mental health & parenting. 
 
Eucalyptus Psychology
https://eucalyptuspsychology.com.au
(03)87403754
Ages: 6-10 year olds and 16 years old and over. 
Sees broad range of presentations.  - excluding personality disorders, psychosis or those with severe presentations requiring hospitalisation

Elise Girdham Psychology
www.elisegirdhampsychology.com/
0434 747 609
Ages: 18+
Presentations: depression, anxiety, life transitions, self esteem, perfectionism
 
Love Work Play Psychology
https://loveworkplaypsychology.com.au 
Anxiety, depression, relationship issues, eating disorders, and borderline personality disorder
Ages: 16+
 
The Psychology Hub
www.thepsychologyhub.com.au
1300366614
Sandy Poovannan (Counsellor)
Ages: 8+ years
Broad range of presentations
 
The Psychology Hub
www.thepsychologyhub.com.au
1300366614
Care Collopy (Art Therapt/Counsellor)
Ages: 5+ years
Broad range of presentations
 
The Psychology Hub
www.thepsychologyhub.com.au
1300366614
Dr Rachel Sluis (Psychologist)
Ages: 6+ years
Broad range of presentations
 
The Psychology Hub
www.thepsychologyhub.com.au
1300366614
Ashlee Wells (Psychologist)
Ages: 18+ years
Supports neurodiverse (Autism and ADHD) as well as Anxiety and Depression
 
The Psychology Hub
www.thepsychologyhub.com.au
1300366614
Amy Foley
Ages: 12+ years
Presentation: assessment ASD and ADHD; therapy - Anxiety, Depression, And supports Autism and ADHD
 
Mind My Health
www.mindmyhealth.com.au.
(02) 88830033
Dr Astrid Przezdziecki (Psychologist)
Ages: Adults
Assistance for depression, anxiety, body image difficulties, eating disorders, adjustment to cancer diagnosis / treatment / survivorship.

Tali Lovegrove Psychology
​www.tallilovegrovepsychology.com.au.
0404994580
Tali Lovegrove (Psychologist)
Ages: Adults
A broad range of presentations including a
nxiety disorders, mood disorders, stress management, grief and loss and relationship issues.  

Lisa Auton & Associates
​www.listaauton.com.au.
0401888113
Josh Stevenson (Psychologist)
Ages: 14+
Presentation: A broad range of presentations including anxiety, depression, personality vulnerabilities, and adjustment difficulties.

​I encourage you to share this list information widely so that it reaches people who are looking for Telehealth appointments with a psychologist or other mental health professional. 

Reaching out to get help is a difficult process for most people.  If you are reaching out and finding it hard to find someone who feels right, please don't give up. 

And if you need urgent help remember that private psychologist are NOT crisis support services. 
If you require immediate assistance please contact 24/7 crisis lines:
- Lifeline (13 11 14)
- Beyond Blue Support Service (1300 22 4636)
If you require emergency support please dial 000 (within Australia).


Chat soon

Kim Ross
Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds and Essential Self-Care for Psychologists.
​www.positiveyoungminds.com.au. 


ps. If you are a psychologist or mental health clinician who sees clients under Medicare, you can register your interest to be included on The Availability List. 
pps.  If you are a psychologist looking for ways to take care of yourself, you are invited to download a copy of my Five Top Strategies to Survive and Thrive as a Psychologist. 

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HOW TO PREVENT BURNOUT AS A PSYCHOLOGIST: A GUIDE TO CREATING WORK-LIFE BOUNDARIES.

17/7/2021

 
Are you struggling with keeping your work and home life separate and preventing burnout? I share my top 9 strategies to help you create strong workplace boundaries to help maximise work-life balance and prevent burnout.  

You face numerous stressors as a psychologist. These include administration overload, isolation, compassion fatigue, Imposter Syndrome, dealing with grey ethical issues and workplace bullying. However, you can minimise the risk of burnout and create a sustainable, thriving career using an intentional self-care approach. One powerful self-care strategy is having clear work-life boundaries. Staying in control of your work-life balance and protecting your time, energy and values is an ongoing process. The following strategies can help you create boundaries to maximise your work-life effectiveness and prevent occupational burnout. 

  1. Identify what matters most to you
  2. Identify recurring stressors
  3. Clarify role expectations
  4. Set realistic expectations of your time and energy
  5. Make Imposter Syndrome your best business buddy
  6. Own your diary
  7. Have clear work policies and procedures
  8. Establish a work-life transition process
  9. The five allies you need to defend your boundaries
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9 Strategies to help you confidently create your work-life boundaries.
Strengthening work-life boundaries requires you to take a mindful approach.  The 9 strategies below challenge you to examine your current situation and take practical steps. Let's get started.
 
1. Identify what matters most to you
Finding the confidence to set and protect your boundaries is difficult, particularly for early career psychologists.  Certain boundaries in a work setting are clear.  These include legal, professional and some ethical boundaries. Other boundaries are more flexible and negotiable. Where you choose to place these boundaries is influenced by your needs, beliefs, resources, and intentions
 
After you consider legal and ethical requirements that come with being a psychologist, it’s time to consider your values. As a professional you have many decisions, including who you work with, what you charge, when you work, what modality you use, what resources you buy, how you want to work.  ​
  • Are you clear about your values? 
  • Does how you currently work reflect what is important to you? 
Too much incongruence between your values and those of your workplace will create a situation where your boundaries feel under constant attack. 
 
If you’re not clear about your boundaries, spending time reflecting on your value is an important step.

​2. Identify recurring stressors
Make time for regular reflection and bring awareness to your current work situation.
 
How do you feel when you: 
  • Sit down to write a report or a doctor's letter?
  • Receive a notification or a ping on your phone? 
  • Open emails?
  • Have a client cancel at the last minute?
  • Are seeing a client with an unfamiliar presentation?
  • Have someone tell you they can’t afford your fees?
  • Receive a phone call, email or text from a particular client or particular organization?
  • Take a client history and realise their risk factor is high?
 
The above are some potential areas of recurring stressors that contribute to workplace burnout AND opportunities or threats to your boundaries. Identifying recurring stressors are a good place to stop and think about your boundaries.
  • What have I set up to deal with this situation? 
  • What matters to me in this situation?
  • Is this situation violating a boundary I have in place but aren’t protecting?
  • How can I stop this situation sucking up my time and energy?  
Too much incongruence between your values and those of your workplace will create a situation where your boundaries feel under constant attack. ​
3. Clarify role expectations
It’s clear from my conversations with other psychologists that role expectations vary, often dramatically, between workplaces.  And the lines between being a subcontractor or employee can be blurred.  One clinician stated that at "My other clinic I feel confused by, in terms of am I an employee or a contractor. It feels quite grey, rather than black and white, which leaves me at times confused as to accountability and responsibility and who is managing the risk". 

Legal advice on whether you are an employee or a subcontractor is recommended.  And then this helps the next step, of fully clarifying your contract details.  
Read your contract and position description. Write down your interpretation of what the contract means. Check your interpretation with your employers understanding. Work through ambiguities.  If you are employed, check it with any relevant legislation including workspace, and think about asking a lawyer to check through it as well.  
 
Areas to ensure you understand include who is responsible for areas such as
  • Covering when reception is at break
  • Compulsory attendance at meetings
  • Following up when clients don’t attend sessions
  • Talking with clients outside of sessions
  • Marketing
  • Sending doctor’s letter and reports
  • Rescheduling client appointments
 
Outside of work, do 
people in your life understand what you do?
  • Do the people in your life understand what your role as a psychologist means? 
  • Do they know what is your work and non-work time?  For me, working from home without a formalised work day means I sometimes need to protect my work time from friends and family who want to catch up during the week.
  • And if you are a solo psychologist, do you need to do all the roles? Can you outsource anything? Accounts? Marketing? Virtual administration? If not now, when? 
My other clinic I feel confused by, in terms of am I an employee or a contractor. It feels quite grey, rather than black and white, which leaves me at times confused as to accountability and responsibility and who is managing the risk".
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4. Set realistic expectations of your time and energy
Remember that drive to impress when starting out? The need to do more to quiet you inner Imposter Syndrome?  It’s not sustainable. Do you want to be working these hours, taking on these responsibilities in two years’ time? If you don’t, stop setting up unsustainable expectations.
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Whilst flexible boundaries are important in helping you adjust to the changing demands that are part of managing the ebb and flow that is work-life balance, there comes a tipping point. This occurs when your mindful decision to do more, to bring work home, to talk about work at home, becomes less of a choice and more of a reflection of a loss of control about keeping work-life separate. This seepage is an indicator that you are slipping towards overwhelm and burnout. 
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Think about your current individual situation. 
  • What are your personal resources, demands, physical and mental health? 
  • How much do you have to give to work? How many clients do you want to see? How many do you need to see for financial reasons? Do the fees you charge allow this happen?
  • Do a client audit.  How does that fit with the number of clients you ideally want to see?
  • How long does a letter or report take you to write?
  • How do you know when you finish a report? 
  • How much unpaid time do you spend between sessions talking to clients, contacting clients or planning client sessions?
Looking at the above, where can you set boundaries around unpaid for time and unproductive tasks?  
 
The digital time black hole
The time spent reading, organising and responding to emails is estimated to take hours each day It is a big productivity drain. If you want to check for yourself you can track your time and see for yourself how much time and energy you take with this task.  
 
Digital time drains include engaging in tasks such as responding to emails / phones and texts from your workplace and/or clients outside of hours.
  • Do you have a separate work and home number/phone?
  • Do you have emails on your phone?
  • What is your system for managing emails?
  • Do you respond to calls/texts/emails from clients? Or do you wait for session time?
 
If the digital world is overwhelming, a regular digital declutter can help. 

5. Make Imposter Syndrome your best business buddy 
The imposter is that pesky voice in your head that tells you that you aren’t good enough, you don’t know enough, you can’t do that, even when there is plenty of evidence to the contrary
 
When that pesky voice is driving you to do more, to be more, this has a direct impact on your time and energy levels.  It can mean putting your hand up to do things that aren’t your responsibility to prove something to yourself and others.  It can mean putting in extra hours so you know just what to say and do in the next session with a particular client.  
 
You can flip this though.  When Imposter Syndrome is reframed to be the quiet voice of questioning and curiosity it can be your best business buddy. 
 
Sit down and listen to it and let it guide you into doing a reality check. 
  • What are your areas of stress and overwhelm. 
  • What are your strengths, talents?
  • What are your obstacles, are they real? 
  • What do you know and not know?
  • What do you need? Is it actually more knowledge and experience, or is it a tightening of boundaries? 
 
As a bonus, the Imposter Syndrome can help test out the congruence of your workplace setting as well as strengthen your interpersonal boundaries.  Identifying people you trust can result in lowering your boundaries in some areas and lifting them in others. 
  • If you are fearful of being found out as a fraud, who do you trust to talk to? 
  • Who can sit with your vulnerabilities without judgement? 
  • How do you feel in your workplace when you make a mistake or don’t know something?  
 
6. Own your diary
You are a limited resource. No matter how hard you work, there is still only 24 hours in a day. 
 
Use your diary as a tool.  Mark in your self-care time, and any other time that is important to you. Mark in your holidays. Don't let admin fill your diary out until the end of the year without breaks. Do that client audit and work out how many client hours you are doing a week. Is this sustainable? During times of crisis many psychologists report a need to ‘step up’ and do more for their community. Whilst this may be sustainable in the short term, it can create a chronic lack of control over work-life imbalance leading into burnout.
  • What gets in the way of your personal diary?
  • How do you manage client reschedules and cancellations?
  • How do you manage client/workplace requests for appointments outside your agreed upon hours?
  • What happens when you are ill, or your child has as a special event on? 
Whilst flexible boundaries are important in helping you manage the changing demands that are part of  the ebb and flow of work-life balance, there comes a tipping point

Man behind desk that is piled with scrunched up paper
7. Have clear work policies and procedures
Your work setting will have these policies and procedures.  Official policies include, but are not limited to, missed appointments, working with separated parents, social media, how you communicate with clients etc.  However, there are likely to be gaps.  And if you are a solo psychologist, you will be creating your own policies and procedures.  
 
Create your policies to not only include necessary legal, professional and ethical obligations, but to also prioritise your self-care.  Think about:
  • What happens when you are ill?
  • How and when you will write reports?
  • Under what circumstances, and for how long, will you take on an extra workload?
  • How much prework will you do for each client?
  • What clients you will, and won’t, work with?
  • What work will you take home?
 
Even though you are only one person, having established policies helps you create and maintain work-lifeboundaries. They add clarity for both you and your clients and help you avoid the stress of making decision making on the run). *As a note - people do sell their policies. They take time to develop and it is rude to ask people to share them for free. 

8. Establish a work-life transition process
Having a mindful routine that helps delineate work from home is helpful in letting your mind know that work is done for the day. Being able to rest from work demands is essential in maintaining control of your work-life balance. Some strategies include:
  • Environmental Cues – having a separate space for work and home activities. Turning off the computer when you are finished. Changing work phones. Turning on your voice mail. Changing your clothes or earrings. Playing a particular song or piece of music. 
  • Routine. Going for a walk/gym/dance/yoga etc at the end of your work day. Making a special snack or a cup of tea. Journaling about your day, writing down your to do list for tomorrow, or a list of what you have accomplished today. If you are transitioning physically between home and work perhaps there’s some music, or a podcast you regularly listen to. Perhaps you touch a special bush or tree in your front garden where you leave all your concerns before opening your front door. Maybe it’s taking three deep breaths before leaving your car. Choose something meaningful and easy for you. 
  • Mantras. The variations on this are endless. For example, using a Mantra such as “today I have made a difference when I could in the lives of my clients. Now it is time for me to rest and entrust them to their own resources”. Or, “today I did my best to embody a caring, compassionate psychologist. Now it’s time to rest so tomorrow my best most caring compassionate psychologist self can show up again”
  • Visualisation. This may involve visualising putting all the concerns and worries you are left with at the end of the day in a velvet lined box, locking it up and putting it in a safe for you to get out when you next work. 
 
Do you have a favourite transition strategy?

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9. The five allies you need to defend your boundaries
After you have set boundaries congruent with your values and designed to honour your time, energy and what matters to you, it’s then up to you to defend them.
 
Broken boundaries can be subtle.  Although the impact of stress is often cumulative it can take one thing to make you realise that you have lost that sense of control you once had over your work and home life, leading to exhaustion, resentment and burnout. Many factors go into why your boundaries become porous, why you say 'Yes' instead of 'No'. Interfering factors include Imposter Syndrome, compassion (and lack of self-compassion), overt and covert pressure, workplace culture, financial considerations, lack of clear policy and procedures, guilt, and an inability to prioritise self-care. 
 
Your five best allies in defending your boundaries are: 
  • Taking the time to increase your awareness of what boundaries you need.  
  • Creating boundaries in alignment with your values. 
  • Practicing assertive communication. Use all the knowledge and certainty you have from these 9 strategies to be firm. Use lots of ‘I’ statements. Some phrases that may help:
  • Utilising third parties to reinforce your boundaries.  These include email automations, voice messages, virtual or real admin, static policy and procedure documents, session fee policies on your websites, the law, ethical codes, contracts, professional advice. 
  • Having a strong network.  This means having people you trust, referral options in line with your needs and goals, and people backing your business growth
CONCLUSION
Maintaining control of your work-life boundaries to avoid slipping into overwhelm and burnout takes effort.  It means getting intentional about your self-care.  The encroaching of work demands into your personal time, energy and what you hold important ranges from very clear breaching through activities such as workplace bullying and exploitation, to more insidious and subtle practices.  Without a preventative and proactive self-care approach you are placing yourself at risk.  Creating clear boundaries is one of the key self-care strategies.  Use the questions and reflections in this article as a guide to help you prevent occupational burnout and improve work-life harmony.
 
OVER TO YOU
I’d love to hear your experience of work boundaries and burnout.  Is it the digital time suck, the weight of Imposter Syndrome, or the exhaustion of trying to work out the essential from the non essential administration tasks?  Or something else?

​If you found this article useful please share.  

Until next time, take care of yourself

Chat soon

Kim
ps If you are ready for some self-care support I'd love to help as you honour your own needs and turn up as your best self for your clients without sacrificing your health and wellbeing, I'd love to help. 

THE FOUR REAL REASONS WHY YOU DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME FOR SELF-CARE.

6/6/2021

 
Are you loving and thriving in your work as a psychologist at the moment? Or are you struggling and feel like you're moving through quicksand? Or maybe somewhere in between? 
 
Wherever you are, that's OK. 
 
I know that prioritising yourself, making hard decisions around self-care and saying NO can be difficult.  Particularly now where there is a continuing increase in demand for mental health services as people struggle with the ongoing impact of COVID19.  

You want to be of service.  You need clients and you need to work.  

However, you also need a sustainable business.  Squeezing in an occasional extra client or going without a lunch break once in a blue moon happens for many reasons.   Doing this on a regular basis starts to add up.  

Without appropriate counterbalances, work overload often catches up with people in the end. And then the overwhelming exhaustion, cynicism and poor productivity impacts on you, your clients and the profession. 
 
You can come back from this, people do. But recovery time is not measured in days or weeks, it is sometimes measured in years. Depending on the source of burnout, it can be exhibited in leaving employment, career change, early retirement, retraining, and/or withdrawal from direct client services. 

When you look at it like this, do you really NOT have enough time for self-care?
 
What makes taking care of yourself difficult?
There are many factors involved in making  prioritising self-care difficult. 
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • Compassion
  • Overt and covert pressure
  • Workplace culture
  • Financial considerations
  • Lack of clear policy and procedures
  • Guilt
  • Unclear boundaries (In the Essential Self-Care for Psychologists course, the module on boundaries is definitely my favourite one - wish I'd understood all this when I first graduated). 
  • You're already burnt out.

However, the reason most people give for not engaging in self-care is that they "ran out of time" or  "I didn't have enough time".

Hmmm....

Yep, no....  that's not it.

Here are four real reasons why you say you don’t have enough time.  

1.     Your current values and priorities don’t allow this task to fit.  Life can become full of anything you choose.  Work, study, children, children’s activities, gym, coffee dates, meetings, etc etc.  There is no shortage of things you can do.   

Hard question alert.
Q: Is what you are currently doing congruent with what is most important to you? 
 
2.     You're worried about looking stupid.  It takes commitment to change your habits so that looking after yourself comes first.  What about if you try this change and it doesn’t work out?  Then you've wasted your limited time and resources.  Your thoughts can also include self-chastisement in that you should already know how to look after myself.

3.     You've bought into the busyness myth .  
In a world where being busy is seen to be a badge of honour, “I’m just too busy.  I don’t have enough time” has become a default.  It’s easier than saying ”I know I should do that, but I actually don’t want to/it’s too hard for me at the moment/I don’t like it/I’m ignoring all things people at the moment/etc” 

How about trying to be super honest (at least with yourself) about what you really want to say.   
Here are some alternatives
  • I have other things that are more important to me at the moment. 
  • I can do that in a couple of weeks. 
  • As much as I love that opportunity, I have enough on my plate at the moment. 
  • Thank you for thinking of me, but it's not something I want to feed into my life at the moment. 
  • I’m currently prioritizing other things.
  • I’m not interested in doing that.
  • I currently don't have room for more clients (you really do need that admin day)
 
4.     You don’t love yourself enough. 
​This can be hard to hear.  

Whether it is because you are putting your needs last out of habit, or, you genuinely believe you are not as deserving as others.
 
If you find yourself saying, Oh, I don't have time to sit and meditate for five minutes, I'll just take 10 minutes for lunch time because I have a report to write, I don't have time to prepare a healthy meal. I don't have time to go for a walk. I don't have time to journal. I don't have time to X, whatever it is. If these are common responses to decisions you are making, firstly look at the three points above, but then look at what you are saying about your relationship with yourself. 
 
You are worth it. Okay. You need it. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to your family.  You owe it to your clients.
 
What you can do about reducing your busyness.
 You ARE a limited resource.  No matter how hard you work, there is still only 24 hours in a day.  
 
Shifting your boundary fences to extend your clinic hours, adding on a new extra- curricular activity for your child, taking on extra clients, volunteering, pushing through…..can be a slippery slope to burnout. 
 
I've been there, I've said yes to doing more and more because my clients needed it. When what I needed was to say NO and spend more time with my young family. 
 
Another hard question alert
 Q: What do you need to say NO to?
 
What next?
When you investigate what's behind your claim of “I don't have enough time”, it can be confronting.  However, it's a great place to start.  

You HAVE to look at your priorities and values.
 
And if you don't, if you just keep saying it and not change anything, nothing's going to change. 
 
You might find that you start to feel resentful and neglected.  As the demands pile on and you are not taking care of yourself, you may start to hate your life, crave for things that just aren't there.  Burnout may start to creep up on you.  
 
So, take “I don't have enough time” as your cue to dig deeper, examine your beliefs, your priorities, to engage in honest communication, and to work on removing those barriers that stand between you and your self-care. 

There is no doubt that some seasons of your life, some days, are much harder than others.  Knowing what self-care you need and how to integrate it into your daily life can make the world of difference to you,

You're worth it.


Chat soon

Kim 

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