Test anxiety at school is common. However, most markings and assessments are conducted privately.  No one else except the examiner can see what you are writing on your English essay. And they do it that away from prying eyes.

In contrast, some activities, and subjects involve public assessment: class presentations, hands-on tasks such as cooking and art, or a stage performance.  Furthermore, in performing arts and class presentations the spotlight can be on just one person.

If we judge school success by how often students find their spark and confidently explore their talents, the demands of the spotlight create a complex layer. For students contemplating undertaking subjects in which they are publicly reviewed, such as in the performing arts, they can be caught in the juxtaposition of choosing to do a subject that they love, but also one that can bring overwhelming stress due to the potential for social judgement. 

This article shares the viewpoint of one student in relation to music performance anxiety.  It also makes some suggestions for you on how to manage the ongoing parental battle of how hard you 'should' push to help your child find and develop their spark.

There are so many ways for our children to show their bravery.  Bravery is not being fearless.  Bravery is experiencing fear and moving through it.  This morning one of my children has gone on a school camp, for a week, interstate, on a plane, for the first time...  They are 11.  

I was at school this morning at 6am, with over 60 other children and their parents.  Some of the children were pumped, one hopped onto the bus without a sideway glance at their parents.  Some of them were accompanied to the bus by their parents, and some of them made do with a quick last minute cuddle before leaving the hall.  Some of them were unconcerned leading up to the day, and some have had significant anxiety.

Before the event my child went on an emotional roller coaster.  One day it was, "I don't want to go.'  The next day it was 'I cant wait to go'.  They had questions, how fast does the plane fly?  What if I crash?  What does it feel like when the plane takes off?  What if no-one wants to watch what I want on TV?  Who will be in my group?  Who am I going to sit next to on the plane?  What do I do when I miss you?

As a parent I listened, I helped him look up answers, I told about about the Australian safety record and that the pilot wanted to get home safely and would make sure they didn't crash. I did not have all the answers, and the school did not provide all the answers either.   In these cases I could reassure him that even if things didn't turn out how he wanted them, it would be OK, he would manage.  I stood by while he rode his roller coaster.  It was my job not to hop on that roller coaster with him, but to reassure him that he would be OK whilst on the ride.  ​

Seven ways you can encourage your child to be brave.

1. Believe in them and let them know you believe they will be OK.
2. Remind them of other times when they were brave.
3. Encourage them to talk about any anxiety and let them know lots of other children will be worrying about the same thing.
4. Answer what questions you can, or better still, help them find the answers to their questions.  This may include looking up where you are staying on the internet, or finding out how fast then plane flies.
5. Point out to them that things will not go perfectly, but there are adults around to help them when they get stuck.
6. If you know your child has a specific fear or anxiety, prepare for this.  Teach them some relaxation exercises and practice before they go to camp.
7. You can engage in some graduated exposure around their fears either as a family or with the help of a professional.  For example, this may mean participating in activities such as having sleepovers leading up to camp, or even visiting camp.

There is no question that school camps can provoke anxiety, to varying degrees in children.  It also provides a wonderful experience for them to grow, develop resilience and create wonderful memories.

​If you are still concerned about your child and how they will cope, seeing a mental health professional, at least for a session or two is a worthwhile investment.

Positive Young Minds combines research and the experience of working with 1000s of children, adolescents and parents for over 17 years to help your child experience school success. You can Book an appointment for either you and/or your child for help in working through their camp anxiety.  
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Together creating calm, connection, and confidence.

​Kim Ross
Child Psychologist, Fierce Self-Care Advocate and Founder of Positive Young Minds​