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NINE THINGS TO INCLUDE IN A SCHOOL SUCCESS SCHEDULE.

25/1/2019

 
There are nine things I recommend you include in a school success schedule.  And why does your child, especially if they are just starting school, need a schedule?  And what's the point when COVID is still disrupting your life on a regular and in an unpredictable way....

WHY CREATE A SCHOOL SUCCESS SCHEDULE? 
​The main reason to set up a school success schedule is to counteract this unpredictability and be active in controlling what you can.  
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Going through this process helps everyone in the family, particularly your child, know what to expect.  This predictability will help with easing the stress associated with starting a new school year.

When your child starts school for the first time, (or even for the 10th time) there is a shift in routine.  From holiday rhythm to school structure.  This is a huge change and can be a source of stress for parents and children.  

There are also a huge  number of questions that need answers.  Who is doing drop offs, pick ups?  What time do we need to get up, go to bed?  When do we prepare lunches?  What activities are scheduled for after school?  Is that too much, too little?  Reading? Bath or shower in the morning or at night?  How much time people have in the morning really varies. Does your child naturally wake early or late?  Is there a commute to school?  Do they have a bus to catch?  
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School Countdown - School Success Schedule

The aim is for your child to get to school on time and to get home from school, safely.  How this happens is flexible.

There are no right or wrong answers to many of these questions.  But like most things, open communication means people are less likely to argue based on assumptions or lack of information.

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WHAT DO YOU PUT IN A SCHOOL SUCCESS SCHEDULE? 
​If  you want your child to thrive here are 9 things that may help.

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HOW TO AVOID MELTDOWNS OVER SCHOOL UNIFORMS

23/1/2019

 
Does your child have meltdowns over school uniforms?  In my last blog I talked about some ways of helping reducing any anxiety your child may have about starting either school for the first time, or changing schools.  Today is about the uniform.  

This is often a contentious issue for children and adolescents I have seen over the years.  Uniforms by virtue of their name are meant to be an equalising factor in the school equation (see what I did there.. a maths reference..).  They are also an important part of the branding for many schools.  

​But as we know not all children fit the one size fits all uniform.  There are many reasons for this - sensory sensitivities is a major factor.  It includes things like - this tie is strangling me, my jumper/pants are itchy, and I hate the feel of school shoes. 

These issues can result in arguments between parents and children and students and their teachers.  However, just a few simple tips can help avoid some of the frustrations that often arise with uniforms.

1. If your child has sensory sensitivities, it is a great idea to have them get used to wearing their school uniform, including the shoes and hat.  If doing this doesn't work, it's time to sit down and negotiate some modifications with the school.

2. Where ever possible see if you can source second hand uniforms - much better for your finances and the environment. And often these are good to help with sensory sensitivities because they are softer.

3. Check what is compulsory and what isn't. Does your child want/need a variation?
Are girls allowed to wear 'shorts'? This is a common one that pops up. If it's not on the list, but is something your child wants to do - this is one worth a call with the school and possibly worth taking a stand on.
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If you have a good reasons for requiring a modification to uniform most schools will understand.  This can help prevent daily arguments and frustrations.
Also, your child may want/need to wear shorts during winter instead of long pants. Speak with the school and ask for permission. They can then give your child a note which they can use if they are questioned by other teachers as to why they are out of uniform.   .

They may want/need to wear a long sleep top under their dress. Once again speak with the school. If you have a good reasons for requiring a modification to uniform most schools will understand.  This can help prevent daily arguments and frustrations.

So, open up the communication with your child's school and keep it open.  Having their allowed modification on record is important.  These tips will need to be reviewed when the uniform changes from Summer to Winter.  


ps If you have a child in the early years of school - Prep to Grade 4, you may be interested in our new community created to support your child's (and yours!) school journey.  It has been designed to help your child thrive.

Is your child anxious about starting school?

15/1/2019

 
Is your child anxious about starting school?

​I remember when my eldest child started school. They were was so excited.  I was anxious... Will they like it, what will their teacher be like, how can I help, do I stay in the classroom?  The questions were endless.  We had done some orientation but it was still a bit scarey.  Together we negotiated the year.  They had a wonderful teacher.  She was strict, but clear, with us newbie parents and we felt a part of the class. 


If you're feeling some of my first day at school nerves, have a think about your first day at a new job, or walking into a new group of people.  What helps - some knowledge, preparation, confidence, a friendly smile - these will help your child too.  Drop them off confidently with a big smile, your confidence will transfer to your child (then meet up with the other Prep parents to express your concerns and try and find answers to your questions). 

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  • Allow them to wear their uniform, including shoes to get used to the different feeling.

Knowledge
Share with your child what you know about the school, their teacher, the classroom,  go over the information you received at orientation.

Preparation
  • Help your child to become familiar with the setting, routines and activities they will participate in at school. 
  • These include activities such as spending time at the school when there are no students there. 
  • Give your child a map of the school and go there on weekends, holidays or after school hours so that they can develop a mental visual map of their surrounds.  
  • Depending on the school their playground may be available for public use.  If so, let them play in the playground and become familiar with the school.  Be aware if there are particular areas of the school they must and must not play in.  Use this knowledge to determine where you allow them to play in the playground.
  • A few weeks before the start of school eating snack and lunch at the same time they will be eating them at school, from the same container.  Make sure you are familiar with rules around food, including ‘nude’ food, whether or not nuts are allowed, how long they have to eat etc.  Let them practice using their lunchbox - and check for things like whether or not they can open it.
  • Allow them to wear their uniform, including shoes to get used to the different feeling.

Confidence
  • If they are worried, talk to them about what they are worried about. Explain that most people feel a bit anxious when they are starting something new.  Share a time when you felt anxious.  This helps normalise their feelings. Practice some calming strategies such as mindfulness.
  • Talk about this and problem solve with them.  It may be helpful to write this down. 
  • Share stories from when you started school.
  • Help them see their anxiety as anticipation - like it feels just before going on a ride at the show.
  • Ask the librarian to help you find relevant books to read to them about starting school – there are quite a few around.
  • Remind them of other times they have started new activities and how they coped.
  • Remind them of their strengths - whether it be friendliness, determination, cognitive ability, sense of humour, creativity etc.
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Signs of excessive anxiety in your child
These may include them continually asking you the same questions; having nightmares; changes in their eating or sleeping habits or other behaviour; crying or becoming angry for no reason; regressing to previous developmental stages such as wetting the bed, sucking their thumbs; saying they don’t want to go to school; and/or showing no interest in going to school.

Nothing seems to help
If you find these strategies are not helping maybe your child is not ready for school.  There is no evidence supporting that starting your child at school early is beneficial.  In many cases giving them a bonus year at Kindergarten is the best decision.  If you want to talk through these options you are welcome to make an appointment, just call or send me an email..  You may also find it helpful to get individually focused assistance for your child to learn anxiety management strategies.  

ps having your child first start school is one of THE parenting milestones.   It may be a trigger for assessing what's now most important in your life, it may give you the opportunity to look at who you really are and whether your life is how you want it to be.  If that's the case for you, the free From Overwhelm to Calm worksheet may help.

How can you easily fit mindfulness into your life?  One easy way.

12/1/2019

 
Have you been trying to fit mindfulness into your life?  Looking for an easy way to do it?  What to know more about what mindfulness is - have a look here.  For one practical way of introducing it in your life keep reading .....

Creating new habits can be really hard, particularly if you are trying to do it alone.  

One way that helps is to link your new positive habit with something you already do.  This means instead of creating a whole new life to fit a habit, you fit the habit into your existing life.  
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One example.  Most mornings I go for a walk along the same path.  I am incorporating mindfulness by paying attention each walk to something different, or looking at the same thing differently.  The photos on this page were both taken on the same path, but largely on different days.  This is my monthly challenge, and I am posting on Facebook and Instagram.  

If you would like to join the challenge come and join us.  Or let us know how you easily fit mindfulness into your day.

If you would like to have a go at making changes in your life by starting small and supported, have a look at our 7 Steps to Change challenge.

If you are interested in mindfulness have a look at these two posts which are a sample of my writings on mindfulness.  MIndfulness and crocheting and Mindfulness and Driving.   


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