Meet Wally. Wally is a Wok. It took me about 10 years to buy Wally. He cost all of $35.
About 10 years ago we had a new gas stove top put in. One of the burners is really hot and the sales person said it would be perfect for Wok cooking. I like to think of myself as a relatively healthy eater, although I know this is very close to being self-delusional. So, I thought great. I like stir fries we'll be a Wok and give it a go.
Except we didn't, buy a wok that is.
I don't know exactly why not. This is a wonderful example thought of putting off things that are good for us without any real reason what so ever. This includes getting a massage, going back to water aerobics or going to the movies with my husband.
I bought Wally today, 10 years later, to make a chicken and vegetable stir fry. I even bought the chicken. Then I got home and took the sticker off Wally and found some small scratches under the big label. He is a non-stick wok, and I hate shopping so I decided that was probably OK. Then I looked at all the steps I had to do to season my wok before first use.
I decided that my husband could make fried rice for tea in the frypan and I would write a new blog post.
Here's to our self-care journeys.
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Last night I was given a gift. After tea one of my children asked if we could play chess. For the next 20-30 minutes we sat and played chess, checkers and 'guess who'. It was the highlight of my week.
I am so grateful for the opportunity they gave me, to sit and be with them. As I sat I noticed a shift in my mind. I interpret this has a reaction to a change of routine, both in terms of playing a game and of just sitting in communion. Giving your time, connecting with others are phrases we throw around because we know they are important to our wellbeing, but next time you sit with someone tune in to yourself and you may actually notice the moment your mind makes the shift.
* My aim is for these posts is meant to useful, interesting and/or inspiring. They are not designed to be used for therapy.. If you are experiencing stress please contact your GP or mental health professional.
Kim Ross is a Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds and Essential Self-Care for Psychologists.