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Is teaching mindfulness at schools doing more harm than good?

20/11/2018

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Does your child come home from school complaining about doing mindfulness?  Isn't mindfulness meant to be relaxing and fun?

Well, that depends....

So why when I start to talk to adolescents about using mindfulness as part of therapy, am I frequently hearing the response "ugh"?
So why when I start to talk to adolescents about using mindfulness as part of therapy, am I frequently hearing the response "ugh"?
When I ask about this response, it is generally because they did mindfulness meditation at school and didn’t really like it. Some say it was boring - which is usually teen speak for a range of things (they didn't understand it, it made them feel uncomfortable, they couldn't 'do it', and sometimes it means it was just boring).

Some clients say that it increased their anxiety and made them feel worse.

When you stop and think about it most people put a lot of time and effort into distracting themselves from distressing thoughts and feelings. Whereas mindfulness can involve tuning into thoughts and feelings.  So, is it any wonder they can experience increase in anxiety and stress, when suddenly in the middle of school they are encouraged to stop, be calm and spend time on introspection.​

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The first step to reducing stress on Christmas Day

19/11/2018

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The lead up to Christmas is often a time of increased stress and anxiety.

The first step to reduce stress and anxiety is to zoom in and identify exactly what is stressing you.  
Throwing your hands up and saying I hate Christmas, it's all too hard isn't actually that helpful.  What exactly is causing the stress.  Let's have a closer look at this.  

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HOW TO STOP FEELING LONELY

15/11/2018

 
Do you feel part of a group of friends?

If you answer no, you are not alone..
Nearly 30% of Australians over 18 years of age reported that they rarely or never felt part of a group of friends.  

Australian Loneliness Report
Loneliness is not just caused by not having enough friends.  
 
Hence the saying that you can feel lonely in a crowd.

Feelings of loneliness are to a large extent caused by our perception of our social connectedness.  It is related to how connected we feel.  
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The good news is by working on your thinking about social situations you can change how lonely you feel.
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It's one thing to know that changing our thinking can help reduce our feelings of loneliness. 

But how do you change your thinking?

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TOP 10 TIPS TO REDUCE CHRISTMAS GIFT STRESS

13/11/2018

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Announce that this year there are no gifts
  
  1. Buy everyone the same thing.  Think a beach towel, movie tickets, itune voucher
  2. Buy a charity gift.  Eg chickens/goat/fresh water.  We did this as a class for one child’s Prep teacher, and it was beautifully received.  These gifts start from $5.
  3. Participate in a Kris Kringle *
  4. Announce that this year there are no gifts.
  5. Set a rule that anything given has to be homemade or recycled (you are welcome to use the Positive Young Minds Free Fun Christmas Booklet.  
  6. Buy from local craft markets.  
  7. Buy consumables.  Homemade sauces, jams, theatre tickets etc.
  8. Stick to a budget.
  9. Don’t buy something electronic, or if you do, don’t make it the biggest gift.  Why? You don’t want to be the parent when the gift doesn’t work, and have to line up in JB-HiFi to replace it on Boxing Day, only to be told that they are out of stock.
  10. If you are buying something with batteries, provide rechargeable batteries as part of the gift, and if possible try to test it before hand.
 
PLUS A BONUS TIP
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KEEP THE RECEIPT

You don’t want to be the parent when the gift doesn’t work, and have to line up in JB-HiFi to replace it on Boxing Day, only to be told that they are out of stock.

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​What is a Kris Kringle?

*A Kris Kringle is when each person buys a gift for just one person in a group, hence reducing excess and cost.  There are many variations.  
  1. Names can be drawn and allocated (Secret Santa) or
  2.  it can be pot luck – everyone brings a gift. 
 
If it is pot luck , here are three variations of how to distribute the gifts.
  1. Put the gifts in a row.  If there are 10 gifts write the numbers 1 to 10 on pieces of paper and put them in a hat/bowl.  Everyone draws a number.  People then take turns to choose a gift depending on the number they received in the draw. So if you drew number one, you go first.
  2. The person whose turn it is has a choice of choosing a wrapped gift or taking an already opened gift from someone (pays to go last in this variation!).  ps I would only recommend this option if people are going to have fun with it, and not be upset when someone takes ‘their’ gift.  Christmas Day is not really the day to lecture people about resilience.
  3. Put a number on the gift and match it up with the number drawn from the hat.
Christmas Day is not really the day to lecture people about resilience.
​What is your number one tip to reduce Christmas gift stress?  Have you tried the 'no gifts this Christmas' one?

Drop me an email and let me know.  


Parenting can be really tough, parenting at Christmas adds another challenge.

I get it.  

You are warmly welcome to join the Positive Young Minds community and get tips about how to increase your calm, confidence and connection.

Until next time, take care.

Kim xx 


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WHEN SHOULD YOU TAKE YOUR CHILD TO A PSYCHOLOGIST? - 7 Touchpoints.

8/11/2018

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  1. When they have a mental health plan. This means their doctor has assessed them as needing assistance.
  2. When there is a high risk of them developing a mental health difficulty - eg family history; past or ongoing trauma; questioning sexuality.
  3. When they have a short-term problem that they could use some help sorting out. Eg transition from a new school, friendship difficulties.
  4. When there is a noticeable change in their behaviour eg change in sleeping, eating, socialising behaviours. 
  5. When they ask to. Your child or adolescent may seem fine on the outside, but if they are asking for help, trust that they need it.
  6. When they require a cognitive, behavioural, social or emotional assessment. This may be recommended by the school, a paediatrician, GP, or through your own observations.
  7. When they have had previous assessments. This allows for review and up to date recommendations and helps you with school advocacy.
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Early intervention can make an enormous difference in children's lives. Anxiety and depression impact on functioning. They reduce cognitive flexibility, impair decision making, reduce attention and concentration, impact negatively on friendships, create loneliness.

Early intervention helps your child learn about the mind body connection; how thoughts and feelings are connected; and positive strategies for managing their anxiety and depressive symptoms.  It can give them tools for life.
Your child or adolescent may seem fine on the outside, but if they are asking for help, trust that they need it.
Therapy at a young age is playful, engaging, and practical. And depending on the situation, it can be very short term, a couple of sessions can make a difference.

Don't wait to see if they 'grow out' of it.

Contact Kim at Positive Young Minds on 0408533515 or email youngminds.psychology@gmail.com to book an appointment to discuss your child's needs.

Do you have children aged 5-25?  Would you like to share your parenting journey with other parents?  You can subscribe and be kept informed about what is coming up in the Positive Young Minds community here. You can also pop over and join us on Facebook. ​
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How to make this Christmas easier.

2/11/2018

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Do you love Christmas but it stresses you out?  

​Do you feel your anxiety increasing when the decorations start being put up in the shops and the first Chocolate Santa is on supermarket shelf?

What makes Christmas stressful?  It's the same thing that can make the rest of your life stressful!  Expectations.

Carrying around the ‘shoulds’ and ‘have to’ of Christmas is exhausting, stressful and can cause anxiety.  There are ways to manage this, particularly using mindful awareness and self-compassion and create some Christmas calm.
 
Let us take a closer look.  
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Whether you are turning yourself inside out to have things perfect for everyone, provide presents you can't really afford, or spending time with people you would rather not, the expectations at Christmas can really weigh you down

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