Did you always want to be a mum?
And I was so sure I would be a wonderful mum.
It was so much harder than what I could have imagined or expected.
Transitioning to be a parent is a HUGE step.
And one of the first lies of motherhood is....
You'll know what do. Your maternal instinct will guide you.
Well maybe if you had your children in a country where there was no social media, you didn't need to work and you had people around to take care of you after birth.
...and maybe you did...
...but you probably didn't....
So, why talk about motherhood myths and lies? Why does it matter?
The main reason is that when you carry the lies, myths, expectations it gets in the way of your actual experience.
It gets in the way of connecting with yourself - the mother you truely are - and then it gets in the way of connecting with your family.
Buying into other people's beliefs, listening to the things you 'should' be doing, does you NO service.
Learning to trust yourself, your rhythms, your children's rhythms is not always easy, particularly in this complex world we now live in.
There are however simple things you can do to start doing this, including identifying what beliefs, expectations, myths and lies you may be carrying around.
You can download the FREE First Step from Overwhelm to Calm or have a look at my new Live Your Best Life: The RoadMap to Personal Wellbeing Program for Busy Mums..
* My aim is for these posts is meant to useful, interesting and/or inspiring. They are not designed to be used for therapy.. If you are experiencing stress please contact your GP or mental health professional.
Kim Ross is a Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds and Essential Self-Care for Psychologists.