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Creating Connection: Blog

One simple way to increase family connectedness today.

11/4/2017

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Family connectedness starts with you.  You can be the calm one in the house.

Stop wishing for the perfect life, the perfect children, and perfect home.  If you find your inner voice saying things that include words like 'should' and 'it's not fair', 'if only' this is an indication that you are experiencing distorted thinking.  Distorted thinking is one of the underlying causes of depression.  If you are having these types of thoughts, chances are you are not feeling very happy.  If you are not feeling happy and positive, it is unlikely your family is happy either.

Start with where you are.  One way to move forward is to practice ABOLD approach.

A:  Awareness.  Notice the thoughts you are having e.g.. 'I wish my child would just do as they are told'.

B:  Breathe.  Take 3 deep breaths.

O:  Own your thought or feeling.  'Isn't that interesting.  I'm having the thought again that I wish my child would just do as they are told'.

L:  Let it go.  You are not your thought.  Often just acknowledging your thought will create a sense of release.  Otherwise there are a range of techniques you can practice.  The following are just a couple of suggestions.  Imagine putting that thought into an envelope and posting it or shaping into a balloon and releasing it.  Or imagine the thought in big letters and then shrinking it down so it fits in the palm of your hand. 

D: Do something.  Ground yourself in the here and now.  Sip water, wriggle your toes, hug your child, go for a walk.  Reclaim yourself and the situation for how it actually is.

Having worked with 1000s of children, adolescents and parents for over 17 years, Positive Young Minds offers private consultations where you can talk about your parenting challenges and your own self-care needs.  

Together creating calm, connection and confidence.

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