Does it sometimes feel like everyone else knows the secrets of school success? Other people's children find learning to read easy. How come they get invited to parties? I think the teacher picks on my child. What am I meant to do at a parent-teacher-student conference thingy? What is a speech therapist and what does it mean if the teacher thinks my child needs one?
There are sooo many questions when your child starts school. What is important? What makes a difference to your child's school experience?
It is said that when we are older we don't remember much of what we learned at school, but we remember how we felt. We remember the feelings of humiliation of being chosen last for sport, pride at winning the timetable race, happiness at a party invitation, embarrassment when the teacher hit us on the hand with a ruler, anxiety about exams..
We remember the feelings of humiliation of being chosen last for sport, pride at winning the timetable race, happiness at a party invitation, embarrassment when the teacher hit us on the hand with a ruler, anxiety about exams.
So when we look at the secrets of school success we look at everything from the mechanics of learning - such concentration, memory, organisation phonetical development; to the mindset and self-belief; social skills and communication; and the navigating of the school system - how do I know if this school is right for my child? what do I do when my child is bored or behind? what rights do I have as a parent? is my child ready for school?
It's thirteen years your child has at school! And if you have more than one child you can spend 20-30 years in the school system!
But one step at a time....
You don't have to go through this alone.
Having worked with children and adolescents for over 14 years, Positive Young Minds offers individual sessions where you can talk about your concerns and we can help you work through a plan to address your concerns. Or find out more about the nine things to include in a school success schedule.
updated 19th January 2022
* My aim is for these posts is meant to useful, interesting and/or inspiring. They are not designed to be used for therapy.. If you are experiencing stress please contact your GP or mental health professional.
Kim Ross is a Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds and Essential Self-Care for Psychologists.