What is self-care fatigue and the benefits of mindful integrated self-care.

Self-care fatigue describes the exhaustion and guilt you feel when you can't fit self-care into your day or your budget. 

Going out for lunch, getting your nails done or a massage, even going for a walk. When all you want to do at the end of the day is to put your feet up and watch TV

Sometimes it is all just so far out of reach.

And the pressure to do it is yet another burden adding to the daily overwhelm.

The good news is that self-care doesn't have to be something else you fit into your day.

Mindful, integrated self-care is available to everyone, because self-care is not just about what you do, but how you do it.  It's not just about taking chunks out of your life, but making self-care integral to your life. 

What is mindful integrated self-care?

Mindful, integrated self-care encompasses:

• how you listen
• what you say
• how you manage your thoughts and feelings
• what you pay attention to
• how you choose to parent, work, live  

It's active and fierce, because to do it you need to:

• showing yourself compassion
• seeing the beauty in the ordinary
• say no to others expectations
• move away from judgement and towards understanding and acceptance
• simplify your life so that if reflects what matters most to you.

It can be challenging.  And while there are some things we know can improve our mental and physical health if we do them, it's never just about adding something to your to do list.  

It's about doing what you can to prioritise your mental and physical health

Here's a practical example.

Let's take sleep.

I go through up and down waves with my sleep. I'll have days when I'm awake between 3.30-4am, then my sleep pattern will reset.  

Sleep is super important for health and an integral part of self-care.  
I have a choice in how I manage my erratic sleep patterns.  I can stress over the fact that I am going through sleep deficit, knowing that that is 'not great self-care'.

Or I can accept that this is happening.

• I can accept at this happens to many women my age.
• I can give my self self-compassion and adjust my daily activity schedule to reflect less available energy, conserving it for the most important elements of my life.  
• I can check off my sleep preparation strategies and maybe increase some such as more exercise earlier in the day or less screen time (acceptance doesn't equal lack of action).

This process of acceptance, of self-compassion, of awareness of energy and capacity is ​all self-care. 

What do you think?  Do you experience self-care fatigue?  Would you like more information on mindful integrated self-care?  

Pop a comment in below or drop me an email.

For over 17 years, I have combined research and the experience of working with 1000s of children, adolescents and parents to help other women like you integrate mindfulness and prioritise self-care in  their busy lives. 

You are welcome to schedule a private session to stop stuffing self-care down the bottom of your to do list and switch to a more sustainable approach. 

Chat soon

Kim

ps I do have resources you can access:

The Self-Care Hub which caters for mental health professionals and mums (or if you're like me, both).
And the Creating Connection: Move, Eat, Sleep, Connect Podcast (100 episodes).

​A reminder this blog is for general information and advice only. It is not designed to replace therapy in any way. If you are experiencing any mental health concern please see your GP, or your mental health therapist.