Do you like school holidays?  Can you take the time to reconnect these holidays?  

​Depending on your family they can be a blessing or a curse. A chance to slow down the weekly grind or routine, or a be source of stress as children out of their routine don't know what do with their unstructured time.  

Whilst we work on creating a school success schedule, how much work do we put into making school holidays a success?

It is also common for issues such as too much screen time to arise; as well as pressures to organise and clean the house and catch up on everything you didn't get to during the term (I hope that's not just me!),

Just a quick hint - try for some out of the house time each day. Have a look at what your local council, youth group, State parks and libraries have on. You may be surprised at their breadth of activities - particularly for primary school aged children.

A quick walk in your nearest park, a trip on a bus or train somewhere, visiting friends or a picnic in the backyard.

Try and make the time to plant your feet on sand, grass or soil. Try and make time to reconnect with your children and your world.

Do you have time for self-care?   This is something parents and other busy people can struggle with - for an example of one of my typical days see The reality of self-care and parenting.  

​STEP 1.  Make a list of all the things you WANT to do for yourself. These are your desires for self-care.  See if you have something from each of the below categories.
 
❤️PHYSICAL SELF CARE: Exercise/movement, Nutrition/diet, Sleep, regular medical check ups.  
❤️PSYCHOLOGICAL SELF CARE: boundaries, healthy thinking, managing stress, challenging yourself, learning new things.  
❤️EMOTIONAL SELF CARE: awareness and acceptance of emotions, resilience, finding joy, respecting and accepting self.  
❤️CONNECTIONS: developing relationships with family, friends, others and community that minimise loneliness.  Connecting with nature.   
❤️MEANING: finding the meaning in your life.
 
STEP 2.   Look at the list.  If you did these things would it help you be more rested, calmer, fit, happier?  If not, what else is needed.  Add that to your list.
 
STEP 3.  Sort the items in order of importance

What are the nine things to include in a school success schedule.  And why does your child, especially if they are just starting school, need a schedule?  They don't have any homework to do....

​Following on from talking about uniforms and managing anxiety about starting school, this article looks at the importance of having a schedule.   

Why create a School Success Schedule? 
​One main reason - predictability.

Going through this process helps everyone in the family, particularly your child, know what to expect.  This predictability will help with easing the stress associated with starting a new School Year.

When your child starts school for the first time, (or even for the 10th time) there is a shift in routine.  From holiday rhythm to school structure.  This is a huge change and can be a source of stress for parents and children.  

There are also a huge  number of questions that need answers.  Who is doing drop offs, pick ups?  What time do we need to get up, go to bed?  When do we prepare lunches?  What activities are scheduled for after school?  Is that too much, too little?  Reading? Bath or shower in the morning or at night?  How much time people have in the morning really varies. Does your child naturally wake early or late?  Is there a commute to school?  Do they have a bus to catch?  

Does your child have meltdowns over school uniforms?  In my last blog I talked about some ways of helping reducing any anxiety your child may have about starting either school for the first time, or changing schools.  Today is about the uniform.  

This is often a contentious issue for children and adolescents I have seen over the years.  Uniforms by virtue of their name are meant to be an equalising factor in the school equation (see what I did there.. a maths reference..).  They are also an important part of the branding for many schools.  

​But as we know not all children fit the one size fits all uniform.  There are many reasons for this - sensory sensitivities is a major factor.  It includes things like - this tie is strangling me, my jumper/pants are itchy, and I hate the feel of school shoes. 

These issues can result in arguments between parents and children and students and their teachers.  However, just a few simple tips can help avoid some of the frustrations that often arise with uniforms.

1. If your child has sensory sensitivities, it is a great idea to have them get used to wearing their school uniform, including the shoes and hat.  If doing this doesn't work, it's time to sit down and negotiate some modifications with the school.

2. Where ever possible see if you can source second hand uniforms - much better for your finances and the environment. And often these are good to help with sensory sensitivities because they are softer.

3. Check what is compulsory and what isn't. Does your child want/need a variation?
Are girls allowed to wear 'shorts'? This is a common one that pops up. If it's not on the list, but is something your child wants to do - this is one worth a call with the school and possibly worth taking a stand on.

Is your child anxious about starting school?

​I remember when my eldest child started school. They were was so excited.  I was anxious... Will they like it, what will their teacher be like, how can I help, do I stay in the classroom?  The questions were endless.  We had done some orientation but it was still a bit scarey.  Together we negotiated the year.  They had a wonderful teacher.  She was strict, but clear, with us newbie parents and we felt a part of the class. 

If you're feeling some of my first day at school nerves, have a think about your first day at a new job, or walking into a new group of people.  What helps - some knowledge, preparation, confidence, a friendly smile - these will help your child too.  Drop them off confidently with a big smile, your confidence will transfer to your child (then meet up with the other Prep parents to express your concerns and try and find answers to your questions). 

Knowledge
Share with your child what you know about the school, their teacher, the classroom,  go over the information you received at orientation.

Preparation

• Help your child to become familiar with the setting, routines and activities they will participate in at school. 
• These include activities such as spending time at the school when there are no students there. 
• Give your child a map of the school and go there on weekends, holidays or after school hours so that they can develop a mental visual map of their surrounds.  
• Depending on the school their playground may be available for public use.  If so, let them play in the playground and become familiar with the school.  Be aware if there are particular areas of the school they must and must not play in.  Use this knowledge to determine where you allow them to play in the playground.
• A few weeks before the start of school eating snack and lunch at the same time they will be eating them at school, from the same container.  Make sure you are familiar with rules around food, including ‘nude’ food, whether or not nuts are allowed, how long they have to eat etc.  Let them practice using their lunchbox - and check for things like whether or not they can open it.
• Allow them to wear their uniform, including shoes to get used to the different feeling.

Confidence

• If they are worried, talk to them about what they are worried about. Explain that most people feel a bit anxious when they are starting something new.  Share a time when you felt anxious.  This helps normalise their feelings. Practice some calming strategies such as mindfulness.
• Talk about this and problem solve with them.  It may be helpful to write this down. 
• Share stories from when you started school.
• Help them see their anxiety as anticipation - like it feels just before going on a ride at the show.
• Ask the librarian to help you find relevant books to read to them about starting school – there are quite a few around.
• Remind them of other times they have started new activities and how they coped.
• Remind them of their strengths - whether it be friendliness, determination, cognitive ability, sense of humour, creativity etc.

Have you been trying to fit mindfulness into your life?  Looking for an easy way to do it?  What to know more about what mindfulness is - have a look here.  For one practical way of introducing it in your life keep reading .....

Creating new habits can be really hard, particularly if you are trying to do it alone.  

One way that helps is to link your new positive habit with something you already do.  This means instead of creating a whole new life to fit a habit, you fit the habit into your existing life.  

One example.  Most mornings I go for a walk along the same path.  I am incorporating mindfulness by paying attention each walk to something different, or looking at the same thing differently.  The photos on this page were both taken on the same path, but largely on different days.  This is my monthly challenge, and I am posting on Facebook and Instagram.  

If you would like to join the challenge come and join us.  Or let us know how you easily fit mindfulness into your day.

If you would like to have a go at making changes in your life by starting small and supported, have a look at our 7 Steps to Change challenge.

If you are interested in mindfulness have a look at these two posts which are a sample of my writings on mindfulness.  MIndfulness and crocheting and Mindfulness and Driving.   

Wishes aren't just for fairy tales.  

How many times a day do you hear yourself saying, "I wish I didn't look at my phone so much", "I wish I was fitter", I wish I could get more sleep", "I wish my children would do as they were told", "I wish.....".

Unlike in fairy tales we don't have a fairy godmother to come along and grant our wishes with a swish of her wand.

​But if that wish is important enough to you,  you can work at making some of our wishes come true for yourself...

You can learn how to reduce your dependence on devices, you can get fitter, you can learn about sleep hygiene and improve your sleep patterns, and you can learn and implement different child behaviour strategies.

What can be difficult is knowing where to start.... And then having the support to keep going.  

​I know that working on my fitness is so much easier when I have a fitness buddy who can come to the gym, go for a walk with me.

Now I don't have a magic wand, but I do know the steps that can help you work on turning your wish into a reality.

Now I don't know normally say things that sounds this outrageous.  But there are sound reasons why?  If you are interested in how - take a look at the video.  Let us know what you think..